If some of you are curious Hodge is doing better! He had a GoFundMe which is already closed but here his his message to the output of support:
Blaine here –
Let me start with this: the outpour of love and support from everyone has been absolutely overwhelming.
In a way, I feel as though it’s a dream, and I’m having a difficult time taking responsibility for my actions in the way that you are all describing. I only did what I would do, what I felt in my core that I am supposed to do, what was my responsibility. In turn, I am having difficulty accepting so much from you. This is why, after one week, my team and I have decided to disable further donations. I am good. I will be good. And I have faith in you. This money will be such a great help to me. I will be able to pay my rent for a few months, finally get a vehicle that I won’t be able to drive for a while, clear my debts, get a bed, put food in my mouth, and donate to the Jamison Center, where I spent too much time in my youth.
On that note, I need to turn the narrative to the big picture. Teach your boys to love and respect women, to take rejection as an opening door to the rest of their lives, to be comfortable in themselves and to hold the women in their lives as holy. This event, what happened to me and that woman in Starbucks last Sunday, this is what happens. This is the result of a man thinking he has the right to a woman’s life. This is the result of one person not taking the time to teach him what is right. Please, if you’d like to donate more: donate to a shelter, donate to the Jamison Center, donate your time and love to the young ones around you. Teach them. Love them. Thank you.
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If you still want to support Hodge he has a Soundcloud with his music, personally not my cup of tea but if you wish to support him and like his stuff go for it! And if you wish to donate to the Jamison Center I believe this is the one he talked out!
Batman is cool and all, but how does Bruce Wayne treat his low wage workers
Pretty well, if I remember rightly.
I’m working off memory here, but he hires ex-cons and former sex-workers (giving one young woman a business card as Batman and telling her Wayne Industries was hiring receptionists), pays for his employees’ scholarships, hires people released from Arkham, made sure no employees were sacked when WI took over GothCorp after their CEO was fired, hired a bunch of homeless guys he met while undercover as a homeless guy (investigating the kidnapping of Gotham’s homeless, which turned out to be a slavery/human trafficking ring).
THIS is what i mean when I say animal rights groups are absolute garbage that waste time, resources and money, all whilst doing nothing for animal’s welfare.
peta have ruined a person’s life and career over a fucking photo. This is what peta does with it’s donated money and resources. This is what you’re supporting when you support animal rights groups.
It’s even worse because the photographer was working towards macaque conservation and welfare.
Don’t lump all animal rights groups into being the same as PETA
Actually I will because all animal rights groups are the same. Animal rights fundamental belief is based on applying human behaviours / rights and the anthropomorphism that comes from that, onto animals. They believe at their core that animals should have the same rights as humans and they’ll gladly compare marginalised people and their oppression to animals which in itself is disgusting.
Animal rights has done nothing to actually help animals or improve the welfare and care of them. Animal rights activists are people throwing red paint at literal strangers, or doing graphic gross public “demonstrations” in order to shock, they sit on a pile of their own bs and think they’re ethically or morally superior to everyone else despite doing nothing to actually help animals.
They include for profit groups such as PETA which do more harm then good, or terrorist organisations like the animal liberation front.
Animal welfare activism is what you all should be supporting. Animal welfare organisations are non-for-profit and built up of actual animal professionals; vets, scientists, conversationalists, farmers, so on. Animal welfare activist are the reason we have animal welfare boards that oversee animal scientific research, why scientists have to animal ethics when working with vertebrates, why there are certain welfare regulations for slaughtering animals for agriculture, why there are government laws and guidelines for animal care and welfare. They include groups such as the RSPCA/ ASPCA, The humane society (international),
Animal Welfare League.
If you support animal rights you frankly are ignorant when it comes to animals and to actual welfare practices or how to go about actually changing welfare issues. If you want to read more about the differences between animal rights and animal welfare I have more posts on it here based on my experience as a zoologist and from my education during my undergrad zoo degree in which I had specific units (animal health and welfare unit) that went over animal welfare and rights.
So yes all animal rights groups are horrible and you shouldn’t be supporting them but animal welfare. Which are two very different groups and organisations.
Animal activism is one of those realms where a purely feelings-based approach just won’t do. It’s natural to be angered and saddened by what happens to animals, but if you want to change anything, you need experts and sound strategy. That’s what animal rights groups tend to miss: they’re very good at being visibly outraged and that’s about it.
Take the group I saw downtown a few weeks ago. They were standing there in Guy Fawkes masks with television screens strapped to them showing horrific scenes of animal mutilation. They had ‘Meat Is Murder’ signs. I don’t doubt these people had good intentions, but their approach was completely ineffective.
They weren’t giving out information. Standing there silently with masks on, they weren’t making themselves open to questions. And crucially, what they were doing was driving people away, not bringing them in. Broadcasting extremely disturbing material like that on a busy street where any number of little kids, people with PTSD, or anyone else sensitive to that could see it…that’s just supremely stupid. All they did was make people avoid them. They didn’t really spread awareness.
So when people say you should support animal welfare, not animal rights, they’re not telling you to care less about animals, they’re telling you to use that care to support organisations with expert backing who do things that actually have a positive impact on their wellbeing.
god i wish lesbians in mainstream media werent so sexualized. like… wheres my dorky highschool gfs… wheres my uptight office lesbian and sloppy sweatpants lesbian who shows office lesbian the joys of eating raw cookie dough at 4am… wheres my rich and famous lesbian who falls in love with shy bookish lesbian… wheres my waitress gfs who work at competing restaurants… wheres my mutual pinning neighbor lesbians who barge into each-others’ houses uninvited… like not every sapphic couple is two Sexy Women With A Forbidden Passion… give me my fun and sweet sitcom lesbians
he still maintains that she’s right for not showing up though, there’s not a thing on earth that can shake john mulaney’s belief in the rightness of his wife
Equality Golbat: “When you donate hair to Locks of Love, there is an 80% chance it will wind up in the garbage.”
I can get similar odds by literally throwing my hair at a garbage can.
Statistically, a charity that uses less than two thirds of its donation money for its central mission is in the bottom 10% of charities, in terms of efficiency and fiscal responsibility. Locks of Love uses less than one third of the hair they receive. (and I’m pretty sure they aren’t using the hair to buy TV spots.)
I should also mention that they actually don’t give people hair. They sell it. What good is a charity that doesn’t give free things to people in need? That’s not a charity. That’s a for-profit business.
Wigs for kids is also great. When I donated I went through them because they were the only group that would accept donations of just 8” (and hair that was dyed.) Either way, don’t do locks of love.
Spread the word, because people still think Locks of Love is THE hair charity, when in reality, they rather suck.
i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship
So my partner and I have been together almost two years, and we both suffer from anxiety, BPD, and a handful of other mental illnesses, and here’s some things that help us out immensely.
communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. It’s easier to be careful with someone when you know they’re already having a bad day. I can’t stress this enough – communication is always important in relationships; but it’s doubly so when one or both of you has a mental illness. You have to trust your partner to be able to be honest with you about what they’re feeling and how their illness is affecting them, and you need to be honest with them, too.
ask questions. If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you understand how to help them can be good. Remember that ‘I don’t know’ is a valid answer, and it is one that you can also give.
be reminders for each other. It can be super hard to remember to do simple things for yourself; it can be easier to remember to remind your partner to do them. My partner reminds me about medication, food, etc., and I do the same for him – it helps a lot.
use safewords. And I don’t mean in the kinky sense. My partner and I have a series of words that mean different things, because sometimes it can be hard to say ‘I’m swinging’ or ‘I’m having a panic attack’ or ‘this subject is upsetting me for x y z’ reason. It’s easier to say one syllable – ‘swing’ for rapidly cycling emotions, ‘count’ for panic attacks (so one of us can count breaths for the other). We have words that mean ‘drop this subject now’ and words that mean ‘please don’t touch me’. We also have hand signals for days when one or both of us are nonverbal, and we revert to texting on those days.
be willing to give each other space. But don’t necessarily go far. If you need your space, tell your partner; if your partner needs their space, make sure they can still access you.
acknowledge each other’s illness. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that sometimes they may come in conflict with each other, and learn how to take a step back when it becomes a problem.
call each other out. If your partner is repeatedly doing things that are detrimental to themselves/your relationship/you, call them on it. Don’t do it in an asshole way – just sit down with them and be like ‘hey, you’ve been doing this thing that is really sucky lately, and it needs to stop.’ Likewise, listen when you’re being called out. It’s really easy to get stuck in shitty loops when your brain is sick, and sometimes you don’t know what you’re doing ‘til someone points it out. This hurts! And it sucks! But it’s part of acknowledging your illnesses. It doesn’t do any good to let bad habits continue, even if there’s a reason they’re happening.
learn to forgive. When you’ve both got brain issues going on, it’s inevitable that people are going to say things they don’t mean, and that is going to hurt. The important thing is being able to recognize when you’ve messed up and apologize sincerely, and accept it when your partner apologizes.
These are just some things that work for us. Add to the list if you can and I hope this helps.
God I know this isnt the time nor place but does anyone else find it absolutely hilarious when a post is like “okay we have Love Simon and To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before we now need an f/f version!!!” And it’s an f/f version of what I can only assume is like a cute colourful romcom based on a ya novel about two girls in high school falling in love with funny lil hijinks ensuing, made recently like how Love Simon and tatbilb were released in 2018, but people in the replies just Very Earnestly respond with “we have Carol! Blue is the Warmest Color! Below Her mouth!” And, of course, my personal favourite, “The Ellen Show!”
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