squidiosyncrasies:

closeonmarksnosedive:

umbridge-against-shipping:

a-rinna:

lmao you can’t say you’re “anti slut shaming” and “anti kink” at the same time. being “anti kink” literally is slut shaming, you’re just shaming people for what kind of sex they have rather than who they have it with and how much they have it. 

#a lot of people on this site desperately want to seem Woke#but at the same time refuse to even consider shedding themselves of the swerf and other radfem rhetoric#they have deep fried themselves and their ice cold takes in#so you see these people with both anti slut shaming and anti kink in their descriptions#or anti swerf and anti kink#or even straight up sex positive followed by a long ass list of consensual sex acts they think are immoral or – to quote them – NASTY#and they don’t see the contradiction in that bc they have no clue what a swerf or a radfem is or what actual sex positivity is#these are just Cool New Things to call yourself to seem Woke and fit in#it’s not activism it’s the desire to be perceived to be an activist so you can get Cool Points#and it’s so incredibly shallow lmao#kink#sex shaming

anyways it seems easy to me that they only wanna protect people from slut shaming if they’re virtuous and don’t engage in sexual activities they find immoral

the worst of it is always anti-bdsm, which boils down to the assumption that a) you can’t possibly enjoy pain, you’re just convincing yourself that you do, pain can only be bad for you, AND b) enjoying giving someone pain is SICK and makes you an abuser automatically.

so, yeah, these people are missing the point of the consent discussion that should ALWAYS be happening between any two people engaging in sexual acts with each other… whether or not kink is involved.

it just galls me that it’s framed as “righteous concern” instead of, yknow, publicly shaming people for having sex, and trying to strip the right to consent away from random people you don’t even know because the very idea of the type of things they enjoy in bed is gross or disturbing to you.

and, as you mentioned, it’s subsequently become trendy to call other people’s sexual desires “nasty” flippantly and publicly humiliate people for having weird fetishes, which is obviously fucking rude. i’m pretty sure that we all learned to treat others the way we want to be treated back when we were five fucking years old, so this is tiresome, and i’m sick of it. i’m sick of “kink-shaming” being seen as righteous and funny and cute when kinks and fetishes are a completely normal part of human sexuality.

these people are literally trying to “protect” people from their own pleasure. when they could be focusing their efforts on educating as many people as possible on the finer points of consent and communication in a healthy sexual relationship. so that people could make THEIR OWN INFORMED CHOICES.

that would be sex positive! but instead we’ll just continue harassing people over their sexual preferences.

And they always seem to assume that it’s only straight cis people doing it, with a straight cis male dom “abusing” a straight cis female by “tricking” her into thinking she likes it, and acting like that’s the only ever possible scenario that kink happens